In my experience the best way to heal major issues is to first take responsibility(not guilt) for everything that has happened to you including such things as the constellation of shattered dreams. Pretend you wanted it that way . How come you wanted that way? What did you think you would get for it?
Usually it’s for independence,rebellion or revenge. but there are many others reason the most common of which is to pay off guilt or hide the oedipal conspiracy with all of its guilt and competition. Once you can take responsibility you can turn it over to Heaven for undoing. Want this with all your heart and the process accelerates for you . Trust the process as it unfolds as it may take some unexpected turns.
With Love and Blessings,
Chuck