WHEN YOU THINK YOU ARE PROJECTING WHAT YOU DO NOT WANT, IT IS STILL WHAT YOU DO WANT (ACIM) is the card of the day. To shorten that sentence : what you see is what you want in spite o0f how much the ego protests. When you find the hidden part that does want what you think you don’t want, you can can integrate it with the part of you that consciously wants something better. As you become aware of what you have hidden in the subconscious, you can make new and better choices. Have a grand day!!
Psychology of Vision